Here's how men should use a dildo

Fellas, if you’re looking for some fun on your own (or with a fuck buddy), then you’ve come to the right place. We’re here to show you how men should use a dildo because believe it or not, they aren’t just for females to get off on. Oh no.

Myths and misconceptions

In fact, let’s explore some other myths and misconceptions around dildos, aside from the main one: they're not just for vaginas. It’s simple. Whatever your sex, gender, sexuality or relationship status, dildos can bring you plenty of pleasure. And if you’re straight and you use a dildo, this does not make you gay. You know your sexuality, and if you want to explore anal play then go ahead! Especially when you can experience some truly intense orgasms, they may even be better than what you’re used to. And if you want to be penetrated, then this does not make you less of a man or ‘not a real man’. It’s all about exploring your kinks and new ways of pleasuring, and you can pick up a dildo to suit any kink or sexual preference.

Dildo diversity

Speaking of, let’s dive into the diverse range of dildos out there. You’re in for a treat.

Let’s start with size. If you fancy a more dinky dildo to get started with, then pick from a collection of cumtastic small dildos. Or, on the other end of the scale, go herculean with huge dildos. With throbbing vein detail, tentacle titillators, and snakey sex toys, you can open up a new world of fun fetishes. If the idea of a huge dildo is making your eyes bulge, then try starting with some depth training dildos to practise insertion as deep as you can.

Depending on how you or you and your partner like to get groaning, there’s also double-ended dildos or double penetration dildos for double dummy dick action; just read our guide on how to master double penetration to get you ready.

And they don’t have to look penis-y either. If realistic dildos don’t do it for you, you can get horny with a unicorn, fly high with a dragon, or explore undiscovered territory with alien and fantasy dildos. You can also tickle those fancies of yours with tentacle dildos.

Need some power? Many dildos come with a vibrator pocket to slot in a vibrator, or you can slide a vibrating cock ring onto a dildo for increased intensity. And if you want something packed with a punch, well, you can get to grips with the handy fist dildo.

 

Anal play

You might be thinking ‘how does a dildo give me pleasure up there?’ It’s all about the P-spot (prostate orgasm). A blended orgasm is not just for vagina-owners.

Solo stimulation

If you’re single or just want some self-love time, then book yourself a date with a dildo. Cook a romantic meal, dim the lights, and get ready for a filling from a delectable dildo dessert. With suction capabilities, you can stick a suction cup dildo to flat surfaces - on the floor, to a chair, against a wall, or in the shower for some hands-free indulging to work that P-spot whilst you work your penis. Or simply slide it in and out of yourself with dildo dexterity. Create the fantasy of someone there with some oral action. As you’re jacking off, you can gobble up a dildo; anyone for chicken? An SFC dildo is on the market for you to order up.

Partner play

Whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual or don’t care for a label and just love all kinds of bodies, dildos can cater for all your deviant desires. If you’re partnering up and both of you have penises, you can create the illusion of a threesome by giving oral to your partner whilst riding a dildo yourself. Or turn the tables, and have your partner thrust you whilst you slide in a slippery simulating schlong in your mouth.

If you’re playing with a vagina, you can glide in a girthy dildo to graze that G-spot whilst giving oral, rimming them, or penetrating anally for a double filling. Or, again, you can turn the tables by penetrating vaginally and letting them ride on a dildo for some doggy action. There’s many ways to explore to make sex more exciting for you both. Let them take a seat on a deep dildo whilst they give you a blowie so you’re both feeling the pleasure.

Prime for pegging

Ready for role play and switching up the power dynamics? Pegging involves those with vaginas to take charge from behind by using a strap-on dildo to pound their penis-owning partner. Flared-base dildos are what you need that are compatible with a strap-on.

Pleasuring your partner

If you just want to use a dildo to please your partner, then make sure to communicate with them first to find out what they’re into: the material, size, design, shape and features. When pleasuring a vagina, you can slide the dildo against the sensitive area smoothly and create sensual suspense with different techniques - read about them in our guide to mutual masturbation. Then speed it up, slow it down, and gently insert or go full throttle - whatever floats their boat. If you are filling up many holes, just remember to make sure each toy has its own toy, or wash in between.

Dildo rules

There are just a few rules to remember when using a dildo.

1. Lube up

Make sure to use the right lube and make things comfortable for everyone. As most dildos are made from silicone, you can use water-based lubricants, but avoid silicone lube for this material. If you’re up for some fisting action with those fist dildos or by hand, there’s fitting fisting toy lubes. For anal play, ease in with some anal relaxants and anal lube.

2. Clean after every use

After every use, make sure to clean your dildo thoroughly. Always read the instructions, but typically, you should use mild, chemical-free soap (nothing fragranced or antibacterial) and a washcloth to scrub and wipe them before patting them dry. Luckily though, there are special cleaners you can get, like this sex toy cleaner. Make sure they are fully dried before storing away. Breathable fabric bags or silicone cases are best for storage to prevent the build-up of moisture. Some dildos can also be put in the dishwasher!

3. High-quality products

And please don’t go for cheap when it comes to sex toys. You need to buy from reputable brands that specialise in body-safe and medical-grade products, so it’s worth that extra little investment to ensure a safe, durable, and high-quality product - for you and your party guests.

Speak to UberKinky for more information about materials and what’s right for you, we’re a friendly, knowledgeable bunch! Contact us today.