Introduction To Male Chastity
Chas•ti•ty [chas-ti-tee]
- the state or quality of being chaste
- not having sex, or only having a sexual relationship with the person whom are you married to
To most people, chastity in the modern 21st Century seems like a bit of an archaic idea. Why would anyone in their right mind want to strap down and lock up their genitals?! Before you choke on your cornflakes at the idea, here’s a little Q & A about chastity. You might just change your mind!
I’ve heard that chastity actually makes sex better. Is that true?
YES! Ever heard of the saying, 'good things come to those who wait'? Just think, if you have had no 'release', all of that testosterone, ejaculate and hours thinking about an orgasm is building up and up until your Keyholder finally unlocks you. The result? Best sex of your life! It really is that simple.
But aren’t chastity devices heavy to wear and obtrusive?
NO! The original designs of chastity devices were worn as belts (chastity belts) and were made from heavy and uncomfortable welded iron or steel. Thankfully, times have changed! Our huge selection of chastity devices at UberKinky consists of traditional-style metal devices, and the best selling and super comfortable CB range.
Won’t being in chastity just make me sexually frustrated?
NO! If anything, wearing a chastity device will do quite the opposite. In masturbating every day/several times a day, and having sex on tap, you lose the potency of your orgasm. Many men find the experience becoming less and less pleasurable, resulting in a habitual and joyless compulsion. Chastity however, makes you value your orgasms; by having some control over your urges you are reclaiming the power of your sexual experiences.
Isn’t this new dynamic likely to put pressure on my relationship?
NO! Chastity is likely to have the opposite effect. Engaging in this activity can restore intimacy and trust between many couples, particularly in relationships where there has been infidelity, or where the male frequently relies on porn and masturbation as opposed to sex. We hear a lot of men saying they want more sex and wish their partners would instigate it more often- or in some cases, ever! A man who is constantly asking for sex can feel doubtful and self-conscious about his partner’s desire for him. When a man wears his chastity device, he is giving his partner total control and ownership of his penis; they hold the key, both literally and metaphorically, and the dynamics that this creates between the partners can be electric.
Can we incorporate chastity into our BDSM play?
YES! It should come as no surprise that chastity is now being used in BDSM dungeons around the globe. BDSM play is all about dominance and submission, so what better way to control someone than by dictating when and if an orgasm will be granted?
So, you’ve been intrigued by the concept of chastity for some time, but you’re still unsure of what it entails? Well luckily for you would-be chaste males/Keyholders out there, UberKinky is here to explain in great detail what you’d be letting yourself in for...
When we refer to chastity play, we specifically mean the practice of a male having his valuables safely locked away for a designated period of time, the duration of which being entirely at the Keyholder’s discretion. A chastity device prevents him from touching himself sexually, or any other way for that matter, until his ultimate release is granted!
Men are accustomed to touching themselves multiple times in any one day; when they urinate they touch themselves, they touch themselves for comfort, and they touch themselves for sexual pleasure. By denying a man this touch that has always been readily available, it inspires a heightened sense of longing and desire, where the only limit is his imagination.
It’s pretty explosive when all of those fantasies become a reality!
Today we live in a ‘McDonald's’ culture, we want everything now, and we aren't prepared to wait! Chastity, however, is a waiting game, and the longer the wait the better the result.
Firstly, let’s explore how chastity can be enjoyed as a couple. Relationships can be transient, we can choose different partners nightly if we so desire. We can swing, we can swap, we can experiment with same sex relations, and we can do virtually whatever we like. Yet many of us can remember early relationships, where the touch of a hand or kiss on the cheek could send us into ecstasy. This is what chastity can bring back to a couple, the frission, the electricity, the intense pleasure that so many of us have lost in today's helter-skelter lifestyle. Pleasure can sometimes be like a McDonald's, or any fast-food meal, momentarily satisfactory, fulfilling a need, but nothing substantial. Chastity gives you so much more.
Though chastity can be enjoyed as a couple, it remains extremely popular in the BDSM community. Surrendering all sexual pleasure to a Dominant is the ultimate in submission and power exchange. So, is chastity all about dominating a man? Well it most certainly can be! Chastity is a great tool for orgasm tease and denial, and is regularly implemented as a punishment and reward scheme by the Key Holder.
Other people find it incredibly exhilarating to choose an unknown Key Holder via advertisements or online. This adds a different dimension to chastity and offers an additional element of excitement and arousal.
There are so many dynamics involved in chastity, the permutations are endless and every one different, just as we are. But simply ask yourself this; "why eat a burger, when you can have steak?"
If you’re in a committed relationship, but you want to really turn up the heat in your sex play, then chastity could be the answer for you.
Many couples engage in chastity as a means of getting back the desire they felt in the early days of their relationship, when they couldn't wait to have sex, and it lasted for hours not minutes. A time when they were always on each other’s mind.
It is also a choice for many couples when the man has been unfaithful, or has been caught masturbating to internet porn. He may choose chastity as a way to demonstrate his commitment, reassure his partner, and enhance their relationship. This is a precious pledge for any man, and the thought of this alone can be incredibly arousing for both partners.
There is no doubt about it, chastity play results in superior sexual satisfaction! Trying to earn a release, the bottom will be much more attentive to his partner’s needs. Without being distracted by his own selfish wants, his sole focus is pleasuring his Keyholder. He will demonstrate his ability and affection to his partner, going above and beyond in the hope of an ultimate ‘release’..
Remember; the couple that plays together stays together!
So you’re quite the extremist, but you’ve never tried chastity as a way of enhancing your BDSM play? Then you’re in for a real treat! Chastity is a fantastic pawn in the BDSM game. It is a great tool for tease and denial, and can be implemented as an incredibly effective punishment/reward scheme.
Dominants that have never fully engaged in chastity play, will have almost certainly at some point employed a ‘permission to cum?’ policy. So, what’s the difference? Well chastity play takes this concept one step further and gives the Key Holder full control over their slave’s orgasms. Many people who love to engage in BDSM have not yet discovered the joys of chastity. So, it’s lucky we’re here to tell you all about it!
Aside from being the ultimate tool for submission and power exchange, chastity is the perfect way to ensure that a scene plays out exactly as it should. The best way to keep a naughty slave from misbehaving is to withhold orgasm. In fact it’s the ONLY way to guarantee that they’ll do exactly what they’re told. Keeping someone locked up long term adds an extra level of excitement and demonstrates the commitment of the slave for their Master/Mistress. But, if you're not into long term commitment, chastity play can simply be enjoyed as part of a scene. In this instance UberKinky would recommend one of our devices with added cock and ball torture features.
We’re anything but naive here at UberKinky! We know that there are a LOT of Dominants and slaves out there that don’t live together. So, how do they get the most out of their play? Well, we’re glad you asked! Many people choose to take plenty of photographs to send to their Key Holder. This proves that they are following orders and are committed to their new way of life. In addition, they regularly engage in web cam sessions, phone calls, text communication and e-mail messaging. When temptation comes-a-knocking, it is crucial to be able to call on the Key Holder for support! We don’t want premature ‘release’ unless absolutely necessary!
Further Reading
So, if you're feeling a more open to the idea of chastity now you know a little more about it, check out our other essential guides;
