How to try anal play for the first time

Picture this: you’re cosied up next to your partner in bed and intimately gazing into each other’s eyes, only to be startled with those three little words: “let’s try anal?” This may be a scenario that’s all too real for some, as your partner follows up with “was it something I said?” With our (beginner friendly) guide on how to try anal play for the first time, you’ll learn everything you need to know about mastering the art of backdoor banging, leaving you trembling for all the right reasons. 

And… relax

We hate to point out the obvious, but if you’re a complete beginner when it comes to any form of anal play, we’re gonna need you to take a breath. The word ‘anal’ can conjure a few  negative connotations for some people, worried about whether it’s going to be the wrong kind of dirty down there, or that it might hurt. Sure, these concerns are justified, but overthinking won’t help.

Remember to always check in with yourself before engaging in any form of sexual pleasure; although relaxing your body is just as important, we want to focus on the mind. Ask yourself if this is something you’re ready for, and if you are, take some time to tune out from the outside world. Pull the door closed, switch off your notifications, put on a calming playlist or ask your partner to perform an erotic massage. When those racing thoughts about everyday life begin to fade, you know you’re ready to experience anal play.

Communication is key

Whatever the situation, communication is always key. If you want to get your partner involved with your anal play, see how they’re feeling about everything and make sure you’re both on the same page. Maybe it was your partner who expressed a keen interest in anal play, but you’re not sure whether you’re ready yet. Are you dabbling with a finger, or diving in with beginner anal beads? Are there any other sex toys you would like to get involved? These are all important things to think about - especially for the beginner - so always discuss everything from your fears to your fantasies. It’ll make for an all-round banging playtime. 

Lube, lube and more lube 

Be prepared to get slippery, because you can never have enough lube when it comes to anal play. Playing with an entrance that’s much smaller and tighter than most  holes - and one that doesn’t lubricate naturally -  is going to take practice, but who says you need to be the master of moan on your first try? Luckily, we have lubes specially designed for an easier ride. Whether you’re experimenting with a dildo or your digits, our range of anal lubricants have got you (and your sex toy of choice) covered.

 

 

Getting turned on 

Without being turned on, you’re more likely to overthink the situation, which certainly isn’t going to lead to a happy ending. Don’t go all guns blazing into your anal cavity without any preparation; it’s all about, slowly but surely, teasing your way in there. Focus on other parts of the body first, using nipple clamps or a vibrator to get you buzzing for the big event, or work your magic on a partner with a spot of oral sex. However you choose to get wet ‘n wild, there are plenty of methods out there waiting to be tried. 

 

 

Freshen up

We know that you devils love to get down and dirty, but not that kind of dirty. So, to prevent any mishaps during anal play, you could freshen yourself up by using an anal douche. Serving anyone from the first timer to the BDSM lover, you can feel rest assured that your next anal playtime will be just as much freaky as it is fresh. For those that are completely new to this, take a look at our previous blog, a beginner’s guide to anal douching.

Although some people may find an anal douche necessary, it’s not an essential. As long as you incorporate plenty of fibre into your diet, poop regularly, and always clean up properly afterwards, you’ll be good to go. 

 

 

Best beginner anal positions

If you’re playing with a partner, there are several beginner-friendly sex positions out there just waiting to be tried. Get your partner to sit down on the edge of the bed, and slowly work your way onto their lap. If you own a vulva, use your hand to stimulate your clit with your fingers or a vibrator as you do so, slipping their penis or a dildo into your anus as deep or shallow as you please. 

Another anal sex position that’s great for those looking to gradually ease themselves into it, why not try out the lying doggy for a bark-worthy bone? The vulva-owner should lie down on their front, using some cushions for additional comfort. A penis-owner will then need to get directly on top of you, lowering themselves down to sensually slip it inside your anus. For female-female couples, or for those that want to try out pegging for the first time, why not stimulate your partner with a strap on dildo? Perfect for the Doms out there. 

Finally, saddle your partner up for the ride of their life with reverse cowgirl. Being a firm favourite for P-in-V experiences, the same technique can be applied to backdoor play. In this position, you’ll have complete control over the depth and thrusting speed, asserting your dominance over your lucky playmate. 

 

 

Anal sex toys for beginners

With plenty of sex toys at your disposal, there really is something out there to turn everyone on. Maybe you’re looking for something to stretch out your hole - take our butt plugs as perfect examples - or perhaps you want to prepare for something on the larger side with our collection of depth training dildos? Especially when the latter is concerned, always remember to work your way up slowly, going at a thrusting pace and depth that works best for you. Whatever takes your fancy, our toys are 100% gasp guaranteed. 

 

 

Go slow

When you feel ready to try anal play for the first time, don’t rush it. We all know that reaching that all-important climax can take time, and it might take you a couple of tries to find the perfect toy, position and technique. Going back to our last point, always communicate with your partner - if you wish to get them involved - before, during and after your playtime. Find out what worked well, what didn’t, and never ever feel scared to speak out if you’re in pain - because there should never be any pain.

After mastering everything we’ve talked about, you’ll be well on your way to an all-round bed-breaking backdoor experience. 

 

Regardless of whether you’re trying anal play for the first time, or if you’re already an avid fan, meet your dream artificial playmate with our range of screamworthy sex toys. Get in touch and act on your dirtiest desires today.