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How to use a dildo

Sometimes, we just need a bit of ‘me time’. Lock the doors, shut out the world, and take pleasure in quality alone time, ahhh. Candles, music... and an orgasm to put a smile on your face for weeks to come. Sounds good, right? Well, for any sex toy novices out there, we’re here to show you what you’re missing out on and to give you the complete guide on how to use a dildo. Whether it’s for some solo boning or experimenting with partners, dildos can be your fun new fuck buddies.

Who can use a dildo?

If your mind is jumping straight to horny vagina-owners alone in bed, well, we get that. But, the truth is, a whole range of people get their kinks from dildos (especially with all the creative, raunchy designs). What’s amazing about them is that they can spice up anyone’s sex life, whether they’re single, straight, gay, bi, or polyamorous. Whatever you’re into, a dildo has got your back.

Wait, I’m a straight cis male with a penis, surely they aren’t for me? Errrm why not?! It’s totally up to you how you use them. Whether you’re getting off on mastering your partner with more than just a penis, or allowing your partner to play with you with a dildo, it’s just simply about letting go and discovering pleasure! And boy, can they provide it.

Which dildo is right for me?

This is where you dive deeper into your fantasies. Here at UberKinky, we’ve done quite a bit of digging, and we’ve unearthed many kinks. Gone are the days of just a standard cock replica. Oh no. Think animal dildos, beast designs, mythical dragon dildos, and ones with all sorts of tricks. 

Still want a more realistic dildo? Grab hold of the ejaculating dildo or even make your own. That’s right, you can clone your magnificent manhood so your playmate can get you and only you.

If size is no bother, or you just want to ease in, try out some small dildos. They may be smaller, but the cumometer for these bad boys will definitely not be low. On the other end of the scale, if you really want a filling - girth and length - go for the incredible, make-you-gasp range of huge dildos on offer.

Choosing the best dildo material

A firm favourite is the silicone dildo. Not only for its stimulating sex factor, but for its non-porous material, which won’t harbour bacteria and makes it easy to clean. Whether you want some G-spot-grazing grooves or a smooth, slidable schlong, you can get serious or silly with silicone. 

Need something a bit harder that’s gonna rock your world? Bring in the metal. A metal dildo or glass dildo can bring hours of fun as well as tantalising temperature play. Warm them up or cool them down to turn yourself or your partners on full volume. Ooh.. ahh! So hot… or so cold! 

Whatever your material, they are super easy to clean and non-porous to prevent bacteria harbouring. 

What’s your kink?

So, whether you’re into metal, some psychrocism (that’s getting off on freezing cold sensations), bulges, unicorns, aliens...whatever the fantasy or kink, a dildo can bring it to life. With unicorn dildos and alien dildos, your role play can go crazy. Escape to fantasy land and get horny, or go ET and explore sex that’s other-wordly. 

How to incorporate dildos into your sex life

Flying solo or playing with partner(s), how exactly can a dildo fit into your sex life?

How to insert a dildo

So, once you’ve set the mood and you’ve got your body completely relaxed, it’s time to get into your favourite position. Either lie on your back and slip a cushion underneath your lower back to elevate yourself (for easy dildo access), or sit upright and lower yourself down onto your dildo, gently sliding it in along with a generous helping of sex lube, and working up to some fast action - whatever works for you. You’re in charge of your own climax here, so listen to your body and go at a pace that feels comfortable. Remember, the fastest won't necessarily be the cumming champion.  Even though vaginas are self-lubricating and many may be getting wetter just thinking about this, some need a helping hand or to just feel even more slippery for your toy - so don’t forget your sex lubes.

Dildo thrusting techniques 

Your dildo can be used in so many different ways to help you reach climax, with certain thrusting techniques completely switching up that inner feeling. Get experimenting and see which one works best for you; whether that’s a long, deep thrust into your entire vagina/anus for a complete fill, short and shallow - using the extra length of the dildo to get a good grasp - or try milking your G-spot or prostate with a curved dildo, applying pressure that points towards your belly button for a spine-tingling sensation. Just remember that finding the spot will require some degree of patience; there’s no particular texture to look out for, but after playing around with these different techniques, you’ll come to learn what gets you going. 

Using a dildo solo

Nights in don’t have to be glued to the remote watching reruns or scrolling through social. If you’re single and need a knob, what are you waiting for? You can have the hottest fun on your own, you know. Turn those yawns into moans and groans. 

If you have a vagina, you’ll appreciate some detailed veins and ridges to slide inside against those sensitive spots, and because it’s just you, you can revel in being in complete control. 

Hands-free pleasure

Robots: our slaves. Have your very own fucking machine to attach a vac-u-lock dildo for the ultimate pounding solo session. Or, go wild with a hands-free dildo by attaching it to any smooth, flat surface. Your hole filled, whilst your fingers and hands can caress yourself - self-care shouldn’t just be about face masks and positive quotes - get screaming!  

How to use a double-ended dildo

Oh yes, this is where the double ended dildo and the double penetration dildo come into play. Get some see-saw action and double the pleasure with stainless steel or realistic dildos. Or, maybe you want to be doubly filled down there for some deep dick riding. Two can tango and you can certainly create an erotic dance with dildo duo play. 

Dildos for group sex

Don’t rely on real penises. Get the pleasure of the next best thing that will never tire out on you. When there’s three or more indulging in an orgy, things may get tricky or some may need a time out. Your fuckable friend of a dildo will be there for you. Having a good go on a dildo to put on a show can also bring others back in the game in no time when they get major FOMO. Fear of missing out, or fear of missing orgasms? 

If the group is full of vagina-owners, then bringing in the dildos will ensure any hunger for a good stuffing is satisfied. Whether the group is mixed or not, the slide against a tentacle dildo or one diving deeper inside you can enhance any orgy, making it irresistible to leave. 

How to use an anal dildo

If you’re looking to step your sex up a notch, indulging in a spot of anal play ensures that your peach gets the love it deserves. But before getting fruity, you’ll want to prepare yourself, or your partner, with plenty of lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate for penetration, so get your dildo or any other sex toys lathered up to the max and slowly slip in.

You’ll want to do things slow and steady at first, using a simple finger or anal sex depth training toys to stretch out your hole, ready for a pounding. If you’re playing with a partner, observe their reactions when you try out new positions, a new depth or new thrusting techniques. Should pain be experienced at any point, stop, adjust your position, and carry on (if you want to, of course). 

Looking for an easy access anal sex position? If you love doggy style, then kneel and bend over whilst you take the lead thrusting a deviant dog dildo up your growler. Grab some anal lube and get rrruff! Whatever your body or sex parts, you can also lie on your back as you insert your play thing, taking in all the view as you get deep, erotic pleasure from anal stuffing. For more advice on nailing back door play, we suggest you head on over to our beginners guide to anal sex, highlighting all of the best tips ‘n tricks for a certified cum sesh. 

How to clean a dildo

Knowing how to clean your dildo is essential for sex that’s as sensual as it is safe. Whether you only play solo or it gets passed around, ‘it’ needs to wear a new condom for each person, or wash it between uses to prevent bacteria building up; yeast infections and UTIs aren’t sexy. Our materials - silicone, glass, and stainless steel - can be cleaned so easily with warm water and fragrance-free soap, or for those who want to get the job done quickly, why not try our HiGenie Anti-bacterial Toy Cleanser? Let them dry out before your next use, and store them in clean spaces. 

If you’re ready for some playful penetration, then peruse through UberKinky for your perfect playmate. You can also contact our friendly, experienced team to help you find the sex toy to match your kink!

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