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How to use a large dildo safely

If simple and small dildos don’t do it for you, then maybe you’re into huge dildos! We’re talking mighty lengths and thicknesses here, sporting bulges to make the eyes bulge. We just need to show you how to use a large dildo safely so you can be raring to go. 

How large can dildos be?

And if you’re wondering just how large they can go, well the imagination knows no bounds. But generally (and if you’re wanting a genuinely good time), large dildos can vary from just being slightly bigger than the average real-life plaything to ‘I’m gonna need all the lube for this big boy’; think over 20 inches and even 40 for a Colon Snake! Then there’s the horse dildo for when you want to go cowgirl or cowboy - giddyup for this beast. Shape-wise, large dildos can be realistic or resemble some fantastical creatures. They can be long and thin, or bulky and girthy.      

Who are you pleasuring?

Simple question, but before you get excited and start collecting a daring dildo collection, do you know if your partner would actually be into it? As much as we like to help people surprise their loved-ones (or kinky fuck buddies), we like for them to be moaning in the good sense! So make sure you have some conversations first. Just because you’ve both been experimenting or moving onto kinkier things lately, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re going to be into an enormous dildo next. And they may want to check things over first - maybe send them this guide for some leisurely reading too!     

Make sure it’s body-safe

Choosing the best dildo for you should be a thoughtful process, as well as a fun one! You do need to make sure that the materials are right for you though, and most importantly, that they are body-safe. The best way to guarantee this is to only buy from reputable sex toy brands, like us. You should also check for any allergies and preferences. Some people are allergic to latex, for example, and some people don’t like the idea of metal on their skin or inside them. Others, though, get their rocks off on a metal dildo

ALL the lube

Whatever sex toy floats your boat, make sure lubricants act as the flowing sea. Especially for those huge dildos, you’re going to need to lube up and then lube up some more. For instance, with fist dildos, you can get a special matching fisting lube for easier reaching and to help with gentle stretching. When using any silicone dildos, be sure to stay away from silicone lube, and go for water-based lube instead. And don’t be stingy with it either. The mantra is the wetter, the better, as you want to keep things smooth and slippery throughout. If you’re playing and teasing the tush, then anal lube has got your back.  

Make sure you and your toy are clean

Once you’ve decided on your perfect playmate, and you’ve got the correct lube (and lots of it!), you should also know how to clean it. This is so important, and you shouldn’t be flippant here. Whatever sex toy you use, you should always wash your hands - and the toy - before use. You don’t want to spread any bacteria. Have a shower to make sure you’re nice and refreshed down there, ready for your girthy guests. If you’re ever switching holes, e.g. from anus to vagina, clean the toy and hands first. So remember to clean toys and hands before, between, and after.  

Techniques for using a large dildo safely

Once you’ve decided on one (or two, three or more!) from the selection of huge dildos, then it’s time to learn about the techniques on how to use a large dildo safely. So let’s teach you some titillating tips on how to insert those titan tips.  

Go slow and ease in

Slow is the keyword here. Easy does it. It’s a good idea to start with a beginner’s sex toy too. For instance, if you’re after some backdoor action, then start with an anal starter kit. There are also depth-training dildos you can use to train your holes’ capacities. The trick to any insertion down there is to go in stages, progressing further in each time. 

Give yourself time

And speaking of time, give yourself plenty. It’s not a good idea to just squeeze in self-play with a larger dildo into a hectic schedule. A big part of any sexual enjoyment is having the right mindset. If you have things on your mind, are rushing, or thinking about what’s on your to do list, then you’re not doing you or your holes any favours. Relax, set the scene, and give yourself plenty of time to experiment.

Stretching and filling sensations

So now that the big fella’s in, now what to do with it? It comes down to preference, but you can twist, thrust and shake. Subtlety is also key here as you’re dealing with a large dildo, so smaller movements will be more comfortable as you get used to the stretching; it’s the largeness that will be giving you a fuller sensational experience. 

You can simply twist the dildo once it’s inside to stimulate the internal erogenous zones, or thrust it in and out - again, just watch your tempo. You can give yourself all the good vibrations too by shaking or rattling the dildo inside you in a controlled manner, as you get off on it hitting all the right places. 

There should also be a worthy shout-out to the fist dildo here. What better sex toy to refer to when talking about stretching?! We’ve already talked about the importance of the correct lube, so make sure you have your fisting lube ready. You can choose some with a tapered design with fingers first, or all knuckles and thumb. Stimulate those internal walls by gently inserting; remember the mantra: easy does it. Listen to your or your partner’s body and pay close attention to movements. Stop immediately if there’s any discomfort, and remember, we all have different limits. 

Communication and safe words

When playing with a partner, you should set up a safe word and make sure communication is strong. It’s best to discuss each other’s limits beforehand and to share what some movements mean. You may use an action instead of a safeword to show you want something to stop. Safewords are especially important for any niche role plays and when using the more extreme sex toys. And don’t go for the surprise approach! This is a definite no. If you feel like your partner may enjoy a certain movement and you know it won’t hurt them and is safe, then feel free to pleasure away, but when dealing with bigger dildos, drastic surprises shouldn’t happen. Like we said, communication is everything. Ask your partner first - it doesn’t have to be a robotic tone, use your sexy voice!   

Mythbusting: Do big dildos make you more loose?

Contrary to all the shaming jokes out there that teenagers lap up, having more sex or using stretching toys won’t cause permanent looseness. The body has natural elasticity to prevent this, which helps the muscles down there to regain tightness after using dildos. Of course, if you’re going to be stretching your holes every day, and for long periods of time, then you won’t be giving the body enough time to regain its tightness right away, so do give those holes a breather. 

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