6 pegging tips for incredible anal sex
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When it comes to anal play, there’s a few activities that have been hogging the spotlight for some time now. Backdoor fingering, rimming… But how about pegging?
Before you drop trou, lube up and shout “sounds gay, I’m in”, slow your roll there. There’s quite a few things you should know about taking a leisurely trip down the chocolate river, pegging ain’t quite as easy as you might assume. But as anal experts, we have a thing or two to tell you about butt-boning. Let’s get down to it.
Hold on, what exactly is pegging?
Not the latest step in your laundry routine, pegging is the newest addition to your sexual repertoire. Essentially, pegging involves a non-penis-owner penetrating their partner anally. It really is that simple. Of course, anyone and everyone is welcome to lube up a strap-on, but the term pegging specifically refers to a penis-owner being penetrated by a vagina-owner.
What’s the deal with pegging?
What’s sexier than sex? Sex that’s forbidden or taboo, and that’s a huge reason why people are into the backdoor act. But that’s not all.
For penis-owners, pegging is all about stimulating the prostate. Just inside the bum you’ll find a walnut-sized gland - think of it as a super charged erogenous zone, also known as the male G-spot. It’s jam packed full of nerve endings just waiting to be played with.
But what about the giver? If you’re the proud owner of a clitoris, the continuous thrusting that happens when pegging can actually rub against your clit. What’s more, many vagina-owners get turned on by this incredible act of dominance, as it’s not something they get to experience very often.
Now that we’ve explored the basics, let’s talk about a few top tips that you’ll need to know before you go poking around. Pun intended, of course.
1. Communication is key
Whichever hole’s the goal, communication is the most important part of any sexual act. It doesn’t matter whether you’re the pegger or the peggee, make sure consent is your top priority.
We can’t tell you how to approach and discuss the topic of pegging with your partner - there’s no blueprint for communication, sorry - because it all depends on the dynamic you share when it comes to sex. If you’re unsure how your partner might react, try bringing it up hypothetically or as if you’ve read something and gauging their reaction.
2. Take things slow
The bum is super fragile; a lot more delicate than genital tissue, and if you’re not careful it can damage and tear easily. So you’re going to want to really slow things down.
Rather than diving straight into pegging, try and relax your partner with something that involves the bum instead, such as anal fingering or playing with a butt plug. This is especially important if they’re completely new to anal play.
3. Use the right toys
If you’re going to embark successfully on this pegging adventure, you’re going to need the proper tools. That includes a dildo that appeals to your tastes, and a strap-on harness. Oh, and lube. But we’ll talk more about that next.
Suiting up? Make sure you pick a harness that will feel comfortable, and that makes you feel sexy and powerful when wearing. It should be snug and without too much movement.
When it comes to choosing a dildo, there’s quite the range to choose from. Steer clear of anything made from a porous material - like jelly - as these can harbour bacteria and are more difficult to clean. Silicone dildos are a solid choice, but not in a literal sense, especially for beginners. If you’re a beginner you may want to stick to a realistic dildo or even a small dildo if you have some first-time nerves.
4. Use lots of lube… Then a bit more
Now this is what you really need when partaking in any backdoor play. In case you weren’t aware, the anus does not self-lubricate, so it’s going to need a helping hand. And by that we mean lube. Lots of lube.
Your lube of choice depends entirely on the toy you decide to play with. If you’re the proud owner of a silicone dildo, or you’re playing things safe by wrapping up with a latex dildo, then you’re going to want to opt for an oil or water-based lube. Neither will cause erosion or breakage, so you’re down to pound.
For other toy materials, silicone and oil-water hybrids lubes are good go-tos. These lubes tend to be thicker and stay in place for longer - no need to stop and re-apply - you don’t want to have to stop and extract on a regular basis now do you?
5. Shit happens, deal with it
Hello and welcome to the rectum! Otherwise known as the ‘poo chute’ so there’s a good percentage you might encounter some - you know - poop.
If you’re plannin’ on a peggin’, think about your diet and water intake for 12 to 24 hours beforehand. We all know that foods high in fibre are important, so eat plenty of fruit and veggies and chug that water while avoiding processed foods and meats. Put down the chilli cheese dog and step away from the spicy curry.
The truth is, if you’re down to enter through the backdoor, you shouldn’t really be shocked if you’re met by a chocolate surprise at some point. If it does happen, don’t make a big deal out of it or embarrass your partner. Maybe have a towel and some baby wipes handy.
6. There’s more than missionary or doggy
We know you’re already pushing the boat out enough by using the mahogany slide, but hear us out on this one. Whether you’re having straight sex or having a cheeky peg, there’s so much more to life than missionary and doggy style. You just need to get the right angle.
Do a little anal education before you take this trip, and learn as much as you can about your backend, and how to maximise the pleasure. That way you’ll understand how to get into the best position in order to enjoy your dabble between the buns.
