No one knows you better than you know yourself, and that’s the beauty of masturbation. Sometimes, you reach a point in the day where you need to let off some steam, lock the door and embrace your much deserved “me time”. Masturbation is the perfect time to discover all kinds of things about yourself, applying techniques that make you tick to your usual sex routine for an all-round brilliant bang. For those that enjoy getting handsy, you may have reached the point where the spark is beginning to fade, as you stare blankly at your hand and wonder why you’re just not getting there anymore. Lucky for you, we’ve put together a guide on how to masturbate better, so that your next strumming sesh is more lustful than lonely.
Setting the mood
How would you plan the perfect date? We’d hope for sensual music, flickering candles and twinkling fairy lights, recreating a scene straight from a fairytale before things get delightfully dirty. Make sure to set up plenty of cushions or a comfortable duvet, so you can prop yourself up into various different masturbation positions without risk of carpet burn (because there’s nothing remotely sexy about that). Now that you’re ready and raring to go, lay your sex toys out and pick your poison. If you’re a beginner when it comes to this area, why not break up with your hand and try something new? Have a read of our blog on how to pick and choose a dildo that’ll take you to heaven for more info on this, because there’s no harm in doing some book work before bonding with your new best friend.
Dress to impress
To get sexy, you have to feel sexy. And who says you need a partner to get your glad rags on? You should always dress for yourself first, so if there’s a particular outfit out there that springs to mind upon reading this, you know which one to reach for. Perhaps you have some sexy lingerie or a bodystocking that feels amazing on the skin, or maybe you get turned on by watching yourself get off in fetish wear. Masturbation is the one time where you can act on your filthiest fantasies without any judgement from others, so embrace the opportunity to do as you please.
Meditation and masturbation
Yes, you read that right. Meditation and masturbation really do complement one another, and they have so much more in common than beginning with the letter ‘m’. Tantric masturbation is all about embracing and connecting with your body, discovering your true self through the power of orgasm. This blends perfectly with our first rule to better mastubation, the importance of setting the mood. Make sure that you’re completely relaxed, focusing on each and every breath you take, and shut off from reality. This means removing your phone to take yourself to a place that isn’t under the grasp of social media; trust us, your masturbation session will be a hell of a lot better without distractions. Tantric masturbation is all about self-exploration too, so don’t be afraid to take a step out of your comfort zone. Just listen to your body and see what feels right.
Focus on other areas
Masturbation shouldn’t just be about focusing on the “main” erogenous zones, oh no. You can get just as much stimulation by using nipple clamps or through gentle thigh caressing (a couple of examples), so make sure to explore and tease every part of your body so it gets the love it deserves. If you remember the story of the turtle and the hare, you’ll know that speed doesn’t always win the race. And when orgasming is the prize, why rush over the finish line? Working yourself up slowly to the big event is guaranteed to produce a bigger and better climax. Take our advice.
All about edging
Are you eager to edge but haven’t yet taken the plunge? Otherwise referred to as teasing or surfing, get ready for a wonderfully wet experience, because this masturbation technique certainly isn’t one to be missed. It’s all about getting yourself right on the edge of orgasm (hence the name) but quickly stopping yourself to prevent release. Having repeated this a few times, it gradually builds up the tension and desire to come, making you worship the sensation when it finally arrives. It’s great practice for making your sexual encounters last much longer, and it can also make you more aware of how you respond to certain techniques. Edging may take some practice, but you’ll be rewarded with better orgasms in the process.
Find your perfect position
Positions aren’t just for partner playtime; you should try to switch it up as much as you can during masturbation, too. There are plenty of ways to get off, from the suction cup dildo squat to getting some furntiure involved, because why should your sex toy be the only inanimate object that you can pleasure yourself with? You can also play around with the environment you choose to get frisky in, taking it from the comfort of your own bed to making a splash with a tentacle dildo in the shower. Each space will open up new opportunities, along with new positions to try, so don’t limit yourself. To discover some of the most playful positions, have a look at our previous blogs on the best male mastubration positions and the best female masturbation positions too. You’re welcome.
Toy two-timer
Two-timing is never banned in the sex toy world, so why not double up for twice the fun? Ensure that you’ve got all areas covered by using a metal butt plug paired with a clit vibrator for an even stronger sensation, or fill both holes at the same time with anal beads and a dildo of your choice. Before you slip anything in, just be sure to lube up beforehand for complete pleasure rather than pain.
Reflect
Now that you’ve finished masturbating, what did you learn from the experience? Did you discover a new dreamy position that you just can’t get enough of? Have you awoken a new fetish? Did you find a double fill more orgasmic than you thought you would? These are just some of the questions you could ask yourself to take your next session to new heights, realising your pleasure dos and don'ts that could then be communicated with a sexual partner. It will take practice, but with these tips, you’ll be having better orgasms faster than your ex finished.
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