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Beginner's Guide To Vibrators

Looking for a buzz but don’t know where to start? You’re in the right place! Our comprehensive vibrators guide is sure to set your pulse racing. Whether you want to bring your foreplay to a whole other level, or bite the bullet and go solo, you’ll find everything you need to know in this magical manual.

UberKinky recommends that you try vibrators solo AND with a playmate to open yourself up to a whole new world of euphoric pleasure.


About the author

Our mission at UberKinky is to help every person harness their passion and explore new realms of pleasure. We’ve been helping people enjoy sex safely for over 30 years and even won awards, so we know a thing or two about this subject.

Whatever helps you get your kicks, we’re here to help and advise whenever you need us.

Reasons You Should Try A Vibrator

Reasons You Should Try A Vibrator

The great thing about sex is that it can always be better. Even if your sex life is mind-blowing right now, it can still get better in unthinkable ways. Here are four UberKinky reasons why vibrators should entice you.

Intensified Orgasms

Enjoy More Intense Orgasms

A sultry shortcut to exhilarating orgasms is vibrator play. Mechanical vibration provides intense stimulation that is unmatchable. A vibrator can help you learn what really gets you going, and the more you know about what turns you on, the easier and stronger your orgasm will be! Whether your playtime is a one-person-show or a little show-and-tell, a vibrator will definitely give you the upper hand.

Shared Stimulation

Pleasure Your Playmate

You can guarantee that sparks will fly when you use your vibrator with a partner. The extra stimulation between you both will enhance your orgasms further. If you’ve got a male playmate, let the electricity soar by exploring the prostate. Otherwise known as the male G-spot, you’ll be able to leave him buzzing.

Fulfil Fantasies

Fulfil Frivolous Fantasies

A vibrator is not a replacement for a partner, rather an enhancement. Get your erogenous electricity overflowing by adding a vibrator into your wildest fantasies. A vibrator is a pleasing tool that can spice up your sub/dom or exhibitionism fantasies.

Amplified Arousal

Amplify Your Arousal

Using a vibrator will also enhance your sex life in the long-run. Vibrator play can boost your sexual desire, natural lubrication, libido and arousal, leaving you or your partner craving more every time.

Have we convinced you to take the plunge and reach for your very first vibrator?

A glossary of vibrators for first timers

Choosing your first vibrator can be intimidating. UberKinky has a HUGE range of vibrators, but how do you know which one is right for you? Perhaps the most important thing is to know what each type of vibrator is designed to do:

  • Vibrators for external stimulation

Also known as a clit vibrator, this is an excellent option for complete beginners and is a vibrator that you will love even as you become more experienced. Whether it’s a bullet or a wand that strikes your fancy, or even something that simulates oral sex, these types of vibrators are not for penetration and can be used anywhere on your body. While they are mainly used to stimulate the clitoris, try sliding it over your thighs, stomach and chest areas for a little foreplay before moving on to the main event.

  • Vibrators for penetration

Perhaps you want to dive in at the deep end with a penetrative vibrator. These vary from small, discreet and sweet to products designed to hit your G-spot every time. They can also be used for external stimulation to get things steamy before getting down to business.

  • Combo Vibrators

These are designed to give you the best of both worlds. The Rabbit is perhaps the most well-known combo vibrator, which gives a buzz internally while simultaneously stimulating your clitoris. This may be the type of product you look into once you have toyed around with both penetrative and external play. We don’t necessarily recommend diving straight in with this type of vibrator, as it may be a little too much of a shock to your system.

  • Anal Vibrators

Who said that vibrators are a female-only event? Not us! If you or your partner happen to have a prostate, why not try a vibrating butt plug or even a prostate massager? You may find the experience enlightening and wonder why you have never explored this type of stimulation before.

  • Penis Vibrators

Now, this truly is your all-inclusive type of vibrator. Penis vibrators and cock rings can be enjoyed by male/female, male/male and female/female partners (with a strap on) and can get you both off with an experience that will feel out of this world.

  • Vibrators that suck

Yes, there is even a vibrator designed to simulate oral play. Perfect for those quiet nights home alone or for playing with your partner while he watches the impact they are having on you.

Vibrators are a fantastic way to spice things up in the boudoir, either alone or with company, but it’s important to remember that a vibrator is not a one-size-fits-all kind of investment. It’s vital to discover what works best for you, and the only way to do that is to experiment, oh darn! 

Now that you have an idea of the type of stimulation you are after, it’s time to choose the perfect extension of your hand for immeasurable pleasure.


Bullet Vibrator

The bullet vibrator is one of the most popular options. It is small, simple, discreet and quiet, yet powerful, with a sleek design that will prevent any awkward questions from nosy visitors.

Used for: External play
Our top three recommendations:

  1. Rocks-Off RO-80mm Rainbow Bullet Vibrator
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  2. Rocks-Off Chaiamo Bullet Vibrator
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  3. Rocks-Off RO-120mm Bullet Vibrator
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Remote Vibrator

This type of sex toy can be used solo or with your partner. Some products even work from a distance (if the product links to an app), adding a layer of closeness to long-distance relationships.

Remote control vibrators allow you to slowly ramp things up or move from fast to slow for the ultimate personalised experience.

Used for: Penetrative and external play
Our top three recommendations:

  1. Lelo Tiani 3 Couples' Vibrator
    As low as £109.99
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  2. We Vibe Chorus Couples Sex Toy
    As low as £119.99
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  3. Hot Octopuss Jett Glans Vibrator
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Wand vibrator

If you’re a fan of external clitoral or anal stimulation, a magic wand vibrator will enchant your sex life. Used initially as a back-pain massage device, these are now powerful stimulation tools, perfect for foreplay, extremely intense pleasure and forced orgasms.

Used for: External play
Our top three recommendations:

  1. Doxy Massager The World’s Most Powerful Wand Massager
    As low as £89.99
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  2. Sinnovator Deep Sensations Wand Attachment
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  3. UberKinky Black Magic Wand Vibrator
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G spot vibrator

Compared to other vibrators, G-spot vibrators are specifically angled and powerful enough to hit the spot with little to no effort. If you’ve ever wondered if you can squirt, this toy is your best way to find out.

Used for: Penetrative play
Our top three recommendations:

  1. Lelo Tiani 3 Couples' Vibrator
    As low as £109.99
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  2. Fun Factory Manta Vibrating Stroker
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  3. We Vibe Chorus Couples Sex Toy
    As low as £119.99
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Rabbit vibrator

Referred to as the ultimate female pleasure toy, the rabbit vibrator enhances both internal and clitoral stimulation, which means getting the best of both worlds.

Used for: Penetrative and external play
Our top three recommendations:

  1. Passion8 Pleasing Pollyanna Rabbit Vibrator
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  2. We Vibe Nova 2 Rabbit Vibrator
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  3. Seven Creations Romantic Rabbit Vibrator
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Prostate and anal vibrator

There are a few forms of anal and prostate vibrator toys, including vibrating butt plugs, vibrating beads and prostate massagers. If you’re new to this type of experience, perhaps try out all three to discover what really gets your motor running.

Used for: Penetrative play
Our top three recommendations:

  1. Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager
    As low as £139.99
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  2. Expandavibe Inflatable Remote Control Vibrating Prostate Massager
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  3. UberKinky Silicone Anal Vibrator 5 Inches
    As low as £13.99 Regular Price £13.99

Egg vibrator

Egg vibrators are the best option if you want to explore the great outdoors and your pleasure simultaneously. Plus, the remote-control function can lead to some interesting partner play!

Used for: External play
Our top three recommendations:

  1. Shots Toys Remote Control Vibrating Egg
    As low as £26.99
  2. Lelo Lyla 2 Vibrator
    As low as £134.99


Quiet vibrator

For those who like to keep their experiences to themselves, a loud and proud buzzing noise may not be your bag. Luckily, there are multiple vibrators (including those mentioned above) where this was taken into consideration during the design process. However, we can’t guarantee that you’ll be able to keep from screaming when using them.

Used for: Penetrative and external play

As you can see, there is quite literally a vibrator for every situation you could possibly find yourself in. Having so many choices can feel quite daunting, so we recommend starting with something smaller while you figure out what you like and work your way up to the more adventurous products, if that’s what you’re looking for. Remember that this is all about you and what you like, and your sexual explorations should always be enjoyable.


First Timer

Additional considerations when choosing a vibrator

Now that you know what each vibrator is used for, and have a good idea of where you are going to start with your pulsation play, there are a couple more considerations to make:

What kind of buzz are you after?

Not every vibrator will give the same sensation. Some will provide the classic buzz that everyone envisions from this type of toy, but there are also toys that rumble or pulsate. Perhaps once you have established whether penetration is the type of excitement you are looking for from your vibration, you can experiment with these three pleasure options to see which you prefer?

Think about the materials

Vibrators are available in a range of materials, including silicone, glass and metal. It’s worth taking a little more time to explore the advantages of each of these before choosing your new toy.

Additionally, make sure that the materials of any sex toy you are considering investing in are body-safe, doing your due diligence is of crucial importance.

Also, consider where you will be using your toy. Will this be strictly a boudoir experience, or are you a fan of heating things up in the shower? Check whether your vibrator of choice is waterproof to avoid any disappointment.

Your experience will be much smoother and more enjoyable when you add lubricants to the mix. Water-based lubricants are always the best choice as they are condom safe, easy to clean and body-safe. This type of lube is quick-absorbing, so really go to town with the application and top up whenever necessary. It’s vital to remember that water-based lubricants are NOT WATERPROOF!


How to stay safe

Safety may not be a word that turns you on, but it’s one to remember. Here at UberKinky, we care about you, that’s why we have created this small list of dos and don’ts to keep you safe while you play. As with any other sexual activity, if you or your playmate experience discomfort, or any pain whatsoever, you should stop immediately.



  • Check the material - especially if you have allergies
  • Clean - before first use
  • Use only water-based lubricants - and read the label before use
  • Wash - after EVERY use


  • Use your vibrator - while it’s charging
  • Use non-water-based lubricants - with silicone vibrators
  • Clean in the dishwasher or with boiling water
  • Use antibacterial wipes or soap - especially if using vaginally
Getting Started

How to use a vibrator

Are you ready to get started? It’s time to warm up and discover how to use a vibrator. Follow this step by step guide to experience what all the buzz is about.

  1. Spend some time getting excited for this experience. It’s good to get your own motor running before turning on the battery-powered one.
  2. Apply some water-based lubricant to your vibrator to help it glide gently.
  3. Turn your vibrator onto the lowest power setting and gently caress your clitoris or anus.
  4. Now it’s time to play with vibration, placement and depth. Once you’ve found a good pleasure point, try altering the vibrational pattern settings on your vibrator (if it has them).
  5. Once you’re ready to orgasm, stick with your favourite settings and hold on for the ride!


Once you are fully satisfied, don’t forget to take care of yourself and your toy.

Taking care of yourself

The most important thing to do after you have had your fun is to take the necessary steps to maintain good hygiene, especially if you have used a penetrating vibrator. Urinate as soon as possible and hop in a hot soothing shower to clean off.

We recommend taking some R&R after every sexual experience. Maybe enjoy a hot bath and nibble on some chocolate if your sugar levels need replenishing.
Don’t forget to drink plenty of water to rehydrate.

Taking care of your toy

The cleaning process will vary from product to product, which is another reason why it’s vital to read the instruction book before you begin to play. Certain materials won’t mix well with water or soap, for example, and the last thing you want to do is damage your vibrator before you even have a chance to try it out.

Cleaning your toy is essential, but even more so if you are using your toy with someone else or moving between vaginal and anal play. If you are unsure whether you should clean your toy, you probably should.

Common Questions

Common questions

You are almost ready to take the reins! Before we equip and unleash you on yourself or your partner, we thought we’d answer some final questions that we get asked quite a lot.

What’s the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?

A dildo is a phallic-shaped toy that is intended for penetration during masturbation or partner play. A vibrator is very similar to a dildo except that it has a vibrating motor. Some models have a range of speeds and sensations and can be used for clitoral stimulation or penetration. Choosing a vibrator over a dildo or vice versa is entirely up to your personal preference.

How often should you clean your vibrator?

Whether you are using your toy for external or penetrative stimulation, you need to clean your toy after every single use. Some even opt to clean their toy before use. Vibrators are prone to attracting dust, so we would recommend cleaning your toy before and after every use to stay extra safe.

How often should you replace your vibrator?

There is no set time-limit or use-by date for a vibrator, but there are warning signs that you need to replace your toy. Things to look out for that will hint it’s time for an upgrade include:

● You find holes, nicks, cuts or deteriorating seams
● If it doesn’t buzz with the same vigour it used to
● Or if it is buzzing more than before
● The toy is changing shape
● The colour is changing/dulling

So if you notice any of these, it’s time to ditch your old vibrator and upgrade to something more exciting. There may be something brand new on the market that you want to try.


Our Best Selling

Vibrator play is about maximising pleasure. UberKinky is here to help you achieve those good vibes…

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  2. Sinnovator Deep Sensations Wand Attachment
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  3. Lelo Tiani 3 Couples' Vibrator
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  4. Rocks-Off RO-80mm Rainbow Bullet Vibrator
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