Beginner's Guide To Lubricant

So, you’ve never tried a lubricant and you’re wondering what all the fuss is about? For all of the pleasure with none of the pain, personal lubricant is a must in any sex play! Not only does a lube ease the pain and make penetration easy, it also allows for optimum glide and silky smooth pleasure.
For those of you who have never experienced the joy of well-oiled sex play, or have simply never found your perfect match, we have put together this handy guide to help you choose the one that’s right for you. Here at UberKinky, we know how important it is that your sex life doesn’t dry up, so this guide offers the answers to those all important questions, and some helpful tips to get you started!
Is the concept of lube lost on you? Think a little bit of friction in a relationship is quite the norm? Well, if you thought lube was only for those that are all dried-up, you're wrong! Our love of lubes promises to really rub off on you, and here are 6 UberKinky reasons why;
Condition yourself for a marathon, not a sprint...
The solution to your sex marathon misery... it's been a long time coming! There's no doubt about it, playing for a long time can result in things drying out. Lube not only gives you that much needed moisture when natural lubrication is non existent, it also ensures that the sensations felt are still as good, if not better, than when you started. So whether enjoying anal, oral, or vaginal, you'll be equipped to go for longer than ever before. Now all you need is the stamina to keep up!
Be a bright spark and make sure things run smoothly...
Who said, "No pain, no gain!"? Adding a touch of lube guarantees all of the pleasure with minimal pain. The main purpose of a lubricant is to reduce friction and ensure everything feels smooth and comfortable. This is incredibly important, whether playing alone, or with a friend. Not only does this friction cause unwanted pain and discomfort, it creates heat, which encourages bacteria to grow. Therefore, the less friction and more lube the better. You can't argue with science!
Get a feel for that little something extra...
Trust us; the grass is greener! Merely rubbing lubricant on the body will be an incredibly sensual experience. The gratifying gel allows you to really feel and make the most of every single suck, lick, stroke and tickle, without any resistance to water it down. Not only do lubricants magnify the sensations that you create, they each add new and exciting ones of their own. Don't forget; superior sensations make for a much more intense orgasm too! So, how do you feel about lube now?!
Don't get left with a bad taste in your mouth...
Get a taste for fantastic foreplay! Lubricant will make performing the obligatory oral that much more enjoyable. Indeed, when it comes to getting a little bit mouthy, flavoured lube is the perfect choice. We all get a little fed up of performing it from time to time, but adding a little flavouring will certainly make the experience a great deal sweeter. You could even turn up the heat with a warming formula. It's true; lube really is a stroke of genius!
Forget the support act; go straight to the main event...
Lube is fast becoming popular with those of us that enjoy a good quickie! With various specially developed formulas available, now you can trick your body (or your playmate's body) into thinking it has had enough of a warm up, even if it hasn't. So you'll both be feeling fully aroused and ready for action, even when there's only a few minutes spare to get down to business. So lickety-split; there's no time to waste!
Get really wet, in more ways than one...
Want to get really 'wet'? Well, we can't blame you for thinking having sex in the hot tub or shower would keep you moist; however, it actually has the exact opposite effect. Too much time in water dries you out (think shrivelled fingers in the bath, people). This can make sex play incredibly uncomfortable. The mood will soon be lost when you're both fidgeting around to find the best position. Applying a non water-based lube will soon put a stop to that. So now you can dive right in!
Do you watch what you eat? Then you are more than likely to be just as concerned with what goes on your body, as in it! Almost 60% of what we apply to our skin ends up in the blood stream, that’s why it’s important to choose a lube that won’t cause any potential harm. As a general rule, we recommend that you try to avoid the following two ingredients where possible;
Parabens – not only have parabens been linked to cancer, they are also reported to reduce sperm count and cause reproductive issues. They can also trigger an allergic reaction or skin irritation.
Glycerin – glycerin can potentially increase the risk of acquiring a yeast infection (in women), or dry out the mucous membranes thereby increasing the risk of other infections.
So, you have chosen the new accompaniment to your sex play and it has arrived, but now what?
Well it’s important to make sure that you are completely at ease before you jump straight in and lather yourself up with the good stuff. Put a small amount of lube in between the thumb and finger, now rub together to check that you are happy with the texture. Keep rubbing it between the fingers to see how long it takes for the lube to be absorbed or dry out. This will give you some idea of how often, if at all, you will need to reapply throughout your play. Then take another small amount and rub it on the inside of your bottom lip (check that it is edible first), this will test sensitivity and whether or not you are likely to have an allergic reaction. If you are happy with everything, you are good to go!
BUT... Stay calm; there’s no rush! Don’t dive straight in and lavish lubricant all over those intimate areas. Put a generous amount in the hands and rub together to warm the lube to body temperature. Then you are ready to apply to the area in question. If you are using a toy, make sure you treat that to a liberal helping too. Be sure to use plenty; we don’t believe in no pain, no gain here at UberKinky!
With so many sexual lubricants to choose from, how do you even know where to start looking? Well fear not UberKinky fans, as always we have pulled on our lab coats and done the hard work for you! The four main types of lubricants are water based, silicone based, oil based and hybrid. We've also included a section on sterile lubricant for those of you that enjoy some deep exploration. This small list of pros and cons should help you to decide which formula best suits your needs.
Water Based
Pros
- Condom safe
- Doesn’t stain and is easy to clean
- Light and natural feel
- Body safe
- Diverse – there are various flavoured, scented and warming lubes available
- Ideal for vaginal, anal and oral sex
Cons
- Is absorbed quickly so may need to consistently re-apply
- Sometimes has a sticky texture
- Not waterproof
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Silicone Based
Pros
- Long lasting, doesn’t dry out
- Waterproof
- Silky texture, not sticky or tacky
- Condom safe
- Ideal for vaginal, anal and oral sex
- Doesn’t harbour any bacteria or upset ph balance in women
Cons
- Cannot use with silicone or cyberskin toys
- Can be difficult to clean and may stain
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Oil Based
Pros
- Can be used for male masturbation and anal play
- Long lasting, doesn’t dry out
- Perfect for fisting
Cons
- Not compatible with latex condoms
- Not recommended for use with toys as it can erode certain materials
- Not recommended for vaginal use as it increases the risk of infections
- Messy and hard to clean
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Hybrid Lubricant
Pros
- As slippery as silicone based lubricant
- Waterproof
- Latex friendly
- Long lasting
- Cleans up easily like water based lubricant
Cons
- Not compatible with most silicone toys
- Not many variations currently available
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Sterile Lubricant
Pros
- Safe for use with urethral sounds, penis plugs and Prince's Wands
- Can be used with metal butt plugs and dildos
- Kills germs
- Doesn't harbour any bacteria
- Doesn’t stain and is easy to clean
Cons
- Is absorbed quickly so may need to consistently re-apply
- Not waterproof
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So, you're still not sure which is the best lubricant for your chosen activity? Well, as always we're here to help! So we've put together this list of activities with our recommended lube type; a final treat to help you pick out your fabulous formula without delay.
Electro Sex - try a specialised electro sex gel. It has a higher salt content than standard lubricants for increased conductivity
Vaginal Fisting - a silicone based or hybrid lubricant is a must
Anal Fisting - an oil or silicone based lubricant will enhance your fisting fun
Urethral Sounding - sterile water based lubricant is essential in this kind of play
Vaginal Sex - water and silicone based lubricants will provide optimum glide and maximum pleasure for your playtime
Anal Sex - we recommend a silicone or oil based lubricant, but remember not to use oil based formulas with condoms
Oral Sex - water based is the best option for oral pleasure
Masturbation - hybrid, water and silicone based are all great choices for your solo fun
Sex Toys - water based is a safe bet for toys. Silicone based is also an option but only if toys are not made from silicone or cyberskin
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