How to use a dildo for the first time

For curious cummers in search of an oh-so-simple, yet oh-so-satisfying solution to a truly explosive playtime, you’re in the right place. The sex toy market is expanding by the day, and with plenty of new gizmos and gadgets out there to get your hands on, the task of choosing your perfect match can seem daunting - especially for first-time dildo users. Firstly, how do you make that all important selection? Sure, the descriptions are inviting, but what do they actually mean? 

And once postie drops that shiny new box at your door and you’re left to admire the contents… What then? Anyone can insert a dildo into an orifice, but are you doing it safely, and how can you ensure that it feels good? We’re here to put your mind at ease, providing answers to all of the above, so that you can focus on bonding with your new best friend. 

Choosing your dildo

So, now you’ve headed over to the web and you’ve got an array of dildos staring back at you, it’s time to choose the lucky winner. With various different designs, shapes and textures to choose from, there really is something out there for everyone - from those who prefer a scoop of vanilla to the fetish fanatics. But wait! Before you hit ‘add to cart’, consider the following first: 

Size

There is no ‘one size fits all’ when selecting your dream dildo. Whether you’d prefer your toy long and slender or thick and girthy, as long as you’re practicing safe insertion, the choice is yours to make. There’s absolutely no shame in starting off with one of our realistic dildos - especially if you want to mimic the sensation of a real partner being inside you - to then gradually (and we mean gradually) work your way up to the big boys: our huge dildos. As long as you arm yourself with plenty of lube when it comes to stretching, you’ll be yelping for all the right reasons. 

If you’re still unsure of which dildo size would work best for you, test with your fingers the next time you enjoy a spot of self-exploration. Listen to your body and decide on what feels most comfortable, measuring around your fingers once you’re done to reveal the lucky number. Check out our guide to dildo sizes for more tips on choosing your new best friend.

Material

Fancy getting to know a new, metallic mate from our metal dildos collection? Maybe you’d rather fill your home with shattering screams from one of our glass dildos, or tease yourself with something a little more traditional: say hello to the silicone dildo. Each material carries its own unique set of benefits, with varying styles offering completely different aesthetics - designed to meet your wildest fantasies. However, before things get wet and slippery, make sure to double-check the material your toy is made out of to ensure that you’re using the correct lubricant. This way, these new additions to your toy box will last a lifetime. 

Use

Finally, consider why you actually want to purchase a dildo in the first place; what will you be using it for? Or more specifically, do you have a particular hole that’s in need of a stuffing? Of course, for beginners intrigued by anal sex toys, the sizing and amount of lube you’ll need to use will differ when compared to inserting a dildo vaginally. Again, remember that slow and steady wins the race; listen to your body and see what feels comfortable. 

 

How to use a dildo for the first time

Relax your body and mind

Now that you’ve (hopefully) met your ideal artificial playmate, it’s time to put your dildo to good use. Often, the ability to reach climax is all in the mind - so if you want your dildo to produce the best sensations possible, you’ll have to give it your undivided attention. This means disconnecting from the Internet for a moment, placing your phone in another room if you have to. Allow your body and mind to completely relax, closing the door and setting yourself up on your bed or sofa, supporting your back with padded cushions for optimum comfort. Take a few deep breaths and take this time to connect with your body, making yourself aware of even the slightest sensations. 

Get in the mood

Once completely relaxed, you can begin to get your heart racing. Whether this is through watching your favourite erotic videos, imagining your fantasies becoming reality, or using other sex toys to arrouse areas beyond your anal or vaginal region - take nipple clamps as the perfect example. Vagina-owners may also want to use a vibrator to stimulate their clit, with the gentle pulsations gradually building up the tension and desire to climax. 

Lube up

We can’t say this enough - make sure you lube up before ramping up the heat. Those using dildos for the first time may not be used to such a stretching, meaning that the risk of injury is increased - if you aren’t practicing safe insertion. After ensuring that your chosen lubricant is compatible with your dildo’s material - and you’ve given it a healthy coating - slip your dildo in gently and prepare yourself for a wet ‘n wild ride.  

Positions 

Dildos can be used in a whole variety of wonderful ways - however you decide to ride. If you have a flat surface available, suction cup dildos can be inserted horizontally or vertically, depending on your preference. With hands-free fucking, you can enjoy sensually stimulating other areas whilst your hole is tended to. 

For those who don’t mind the hand action, there are various different positions that will elicit different bodily responses. You could get onto your back (using cushion support if desired), with your legs bent up in the air and slowly leaning forward for a thrusting. Or, position yourself on your side to create a tighter opening for a filling sensation. 

Another position that lets you get a deeper fill is by sitting in an upright position, with your legs bent slightly. This makes it easier to hit your G-spot, and it’s also a great one for your partner to watch. 

Techniques

The techniques you decide to use will always completely switch up the feel of your dildo. Shallow thrusts are perfect for twice the stimulation - especially for vagina-owners who want to get their clit in on the action - alongside being a safe starting point for those embarking on their anal play journey. Alternatively, use deep thrusts and gentle rotations, working your way up from slow and steady to fast movements. Your best bet is to experiment with them all, or perhaps work both of your openings at the same time by relying on the help of a partner. Just remember to avoid double-dipping, and wear condoms before switching things up to avoid any nasty infections. 

Now that you know how to both select and use a dildo, what are you waiting for? Head over to our site and meet your perfect match today.