Although it’s a position that undoubtedly everyone has heard of, there’s a certain finesse involved when it comes to riding your way to orgasm. But having to do it backwards? Well, that’s a whole other ball game. Welcome to reverse cowgirl.
What is reverse cowgirl?
There’s a few variations of cowgirl out there, and reverse cowgirl does exactly what it says on the tin. It’s vulva-owner on top, but facing their partner’s feet rather than their face! It leaves plenty of room to access the clitoris, and even puts your partner in prime position for a little bum fun, too.
How to get into reverse cowgirl
Have your partner lie on their back, straddle them (backwards) and lower yourself onto their penis - vagina or anal, whatever your preference is! It does take quite a bit of balance so take this steady if you’re a newbie.
There are variations you can try. A seated version of the position takes balance out of the equation and allows you to get used to the sensation before you take the plunge into full reverse cowgirl. Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed and ease yourself down into their lap. Grind and squat up and down as you get to grips with the different sensations - find out what you really like!
Make sure you’re well-lubricated to ensure an easy slip in.
Top tips for getting the most out of reverse cowgirl
Let yourself enjoy it
Being on top is an empowering position to be in, so enjoy it. Don’t be afraid to move exactly how you want, or to ask for what you want. You may prefer slower or faster penetration, softer or harder. Move around and experiment until you find exactly what works for you.
Take advantage of the freedom
In ordinary cowgirl, things can get a little intense when it comes to eye-contact. If you find this a little anxiety-inducing, then reverse cowgirl could be right up your street. You can focus on touching yourself, playing with your breasts or clitoris - getting some toys involved if you want to (more on this later). The point is, that you can really let yourself go without feeling like you’re being watched.
Switch up the positions
The thing with reverse cowgirl - or indeed normal cowgirl - is that your legs can get tired pretty easily. You might find your calves starting to cramp or knees starting to ache; nobody needs to be fighting fatigue whilst they’re trying to orgasm. If you find yourself starting to shake, try moving your heels outward and inward to reduce the pressure on your joints. Or lean forward a little to distribute your weight a little more evenly. Your partner will get a peachy view of your ass when you do this.
Bring in a helping hand
One of the very best things about riding in reverse is that there are suddenly ample opportunities for additional stimulation (try saying that five times fast). Bring in a small vibrator to stimulate your clitoris as you ride - if your fingers need a break. For some added stimulation for the both of you, a cock ring will do the trick. Psst! Get one of the vibrating ones that’ll rub against your clit as you ride!
To kick things up a notch, why not bring some backdoor action into play? Butt plugs can be inserted before you hop on top - make sure you use plenty of lube - and you’ll be in for double the fun. Triple if you indulge in a little clit play! Anal beads are also a good shout for some amazing stimulation; just remember your lube and have your partner ease them out slowly as you reach your climax. For the ultimate backdoor filling, have your partner insert and use a dildo in your ass from behind. Phew! This reverse cowgirl just got a whole lot wilder!
