How to make oral sex better (for vaginas)
What’s penetrative sex without a healthy dose of oral beforehand to get your playmate wet and ready for a pounding? However, before you go down under, it’s important to make yourself aware of the tips and techniques that’ll leave your partner on the brink of orgasm, rather than enduring a not-so-sexy clit crunch. Let’s remember that the vagina is incredibly sensitive, and largely misunderstood; if you’re licking, sucking and nibbling the wrong areas, you’ll have your lover screaming for all the wrong reasons. Do your homework beforehand, and feast your eyes on this in-depth guide on how to make oral sex better if your partner has a vagina. Both you, and your lucky partner, are in for a real treat.
Take it slow and steady
Didn’t your mother tell you not to rush your food? When you’re working your magic on your partner’s vagina, trust us when we say that slow and steady always wins the race. To get both of you in the mood, dim the lights, put on that secret x-rated playlist of yours, light a few candles and set-up a comfortable place to cum. You might want to get extra hot and steamy in the shower first, kissing your partner sensually, as though you were on set for The Notebook, to leave them fantasising about what wonders await.
Don’t go straight to the vagina
Yes, you read that right. Don’t head straight for the target without working your way there, oh-so-slowly. Why not leave your partner on the edge of their seat instead, gradually working your way up their legs, gliding your fingers lightly along their thighs and grazing over their vaginal area? Sounds pretty dreamy, right? Get some boy butter involved to heighten the sensations, performing an erotic massage on your partner. Even better, the solution is 100% edible - perfect for some lover-licking fun.
Stimulate the clitoris
Once you’ve teased your partner to your heart’s content, it’s time to divert your attention to the clitoris. This can’t be said enough, but do go gently on your partner, remembering that this area is incredibly sensitive. Of course, this can be used to your advantage, but there is still an element of risk at play. Rather than diving in teeth first, gently run your lips over the clitoris, paying close attention to your partner’s body language to see how they react to varying pressure. Use your tongue to delicately tease the clit, experimenting with licking up and down, side-to-side, or in a figure of eight motion to see what gets your playmate going.
Play with the labia
Don’t forget about other parts of the vagina; spread the labia apart to really expose the clit for easy access and intense sensations, or give them a soft suck. Remember, not every vagina is the same, and although a previous sexual partner may have absolutely loved being licked left, right, this may not be the case with your new playmate.
Tongue penetration
After spending some time playing with your partner’s clit, you may want to give tongue penetration a try. Massage the clitoris using a vibrator as you slowly insert your tongue into the vaginal opening, working up the speed, going deeper, and even upping vibration power, ever so gradually.
Double stimulation
Looking for a deeper fill? Using your tongue is great for building up the tension, but there isn't anything quite like whipping out a dildo for a dash of double stimulation. Whether your partner likes their artificial lovers on the larger side, in the form of a huge dildo, or perhaps they get wet for the underwater variety - in which case, dive to deeper depths with a tentacle dildo - there’s a sex toy out there to elevate anyone’s oral play.
Coat the dildo with plenty of lube for an effortless glide in, slowly penetrating your partner and working your way to their G-spot as you split your attention between thrusting and using your fingers or tongue to stimulate the clit. Thanks to the wonderful curvature and ribbed texture of dildos, you’ll be locating the hidden treasure in no time - making for an orgasm that’ll have your partner moaning the house down.
Focus on other areas
Now that you’ve given the vagina the tender love and care it deserves, you can now direct your attention to other areas of the body, such as the nipples. After teasing them delicately with your fingers, use nipple suckers or nipple clamps to heighten the pleasure, going slowly at first and gradually increasing the intensity. Monitor your partner’s reactions throughout, either focusing your attention on this particular area, or maybe you feel ready to master both top and bottom at the same time.
Looking for more tips and tricks on how to take care of tits? Have a read of our beginner’s guide to nipple play to discover just about everything you need to know. Go on, you know you want to.
Practice makes perfect
This may be the most important point of them all: practice makes perfect. The age old saying that speaks so much truth should be applied to every area of life, particularly when it comes to sex. Although this guide has (hopefully) given you some inspiration for tricks and techniques you could use on your partner, you won’t necessarily master oral sex on the first go. Experimentation is what makes sex so fun, so take the time to navigate your way around the body, being responsive to your partner’s reactions along the way.
